You can't be serious.
A) You have a Skorn. Play without one and see where your DPS goes;
B) He got an IK Chest -- because that's what he wanted;
C) He's 18 paragon levels behind you; that's 54 strength, 36 vitality,
D) Your attack speed is an inefficient and pathetic 1.07 per second -- he has 1.80;
E) His AR is 700 unbuffed; yours is not even 500 -- it's a premium to acquire
I could go on. That magical upgraded chest of yours is going to likely be a IK Chest -- it will cost you at least 100-800m to acquire. The boots takes a giant dump on yours. Nothing he has needs much of an upgrade other than the weapons. Go look up at the list I posted with his gear total and then head to the AH and acquire those same items for the 300m you poured into your own gear.
Here are my thoughts about it:
1. There's a conversion point where a certain amount of vit or armor compensates for AR, so obtaining AR over vit, armor or % life is not always a good thing. (This is the basis of EHP calculators)
2. If we have the same paragon levels then I could compensate for the loss in stats by gems or small upgrades which amount for less than 50M
3. having greater attack speed but same dps only amounts to having a greater proc rate, helping mainly fury generation only iirc (LOH is irrelevant in 1.05)
4. One of my main reasons for buying skorn is...it is cheap for the dps it gives.
There is no doubt that I definitely agree that his gear is better. But paying extra 900M to get from my gear to his level of gear is outrageous, so that's maybe where our differences lie. :)
The distinction is that I never had control of his gold and he wanted to blow his gold on the best possible set-up he could get. I took every precaution necessary to get him the best bang for his buck without harming his set-up over time. You can approach Killakush directly and ask him if I bullied him or pushed him into getting items without explaining why.
Every time I gear a player, I do the following things:
1) Explain what is wrong with his/her set-up;
2) Ask the player what kind of experience he/she has had in the PTR and in current inferno with the set-up;
3) Borrow the gear to test for myself (if the player is willing);
4) Explain what is wrong with the set-up in the most simple way possible -- repeat if necessary to ensure the concept is thoroughly understood;
5) Explain my core processes in building (EHP is something that I'm well-known for) and show the player how I would make those changes with his/her budget;
Most importantly, I ASK what the player wants. Whether it's S&B or WW or whathaveyou, I do everything to ensure that there's no miscommunication between myself and the player.
When I took over Killakush's gear, I never had control of his gold. I explained why something works, why it doesn't, and how it affects his gear value in the future. I believe the Ice Climbers were something that he specifically wanted more than anything else, so I pulled a favour from someone I knew was selling his Ice Climbers and had the boots (which costs about 500m in the AH on a good day) reduced to 320m.
Call me lazy. Call me a bully. But in terms of what Killakush wanted, Outlaw explained it perfectly: "Those telling him to cash out underestimate the euphoria one must feel when given the ability to purchase ANY BIS ITEM in the game. Especially when he didn't waste much (if anything at all) to get there."
And for the record, Killakush was about to quit the game before he got that drop.