So 8k elite kills later I'm finally happy with my monk build:
The build is very simple and efficient. TR between mobs to save time. Use MoC 3 sec bonus and CS when fighting to maximise fighting efficiency.
It was hard to give up FoT:TC but the quickening gets me to full spirit very quickly which let's me either spam cyclone strike, MoC or save up spirit for the TR.
I find this build is a great mix of survivability and speed and the low AS of my weapon let's me TR for a long time if needed.
For group play I ditch TR in favour of BoH:BW and use the guiding light passive which makes other group members happy. They also don't like it if I TR ahead.
Anyway, I know most of the monks that read here are SC monks and there are different needs for that but just sharing for those interested.