01/11/2011 1:54 AMA "mostly female" guild on an RP server that refuses to use Ventrilo?
Posted by Bankete
Cute, obviously a trolling post, but I guess worth acknowledging. I don't know about everyone who claims to be female in guild, but many of us have facebook pages (that we share privately with each other, family and non-WoW friends, because we're sane and realize the internet is not the safest place). Many of us have talked on other people's vents to say hello or goodbye.
Some might see the whole claiming to be female & not talking vent thing to be suspicious, but I'll let you in on a little secret. A good number of girls/women aren't really interested in proving themselves to you in an online game. Despite what you might think, they don't want to hear how hot you think their voice is (although some do like the attention, I'll admit).
Others can do without the constant sexual innuendo some guys will send their way. "OMG, you is girl irl. a/s/l plz!" Some of us have partners, and aren't looking to flirt; that sort of attention was only exciting back in my teens. Now, I politely side-step it and hope it just ends without needing to directly stop it.
In general, being in a raiding guild does not equate with wanting to hook up online; I like to think we have an everyone-friendly atmosphere; at the same time we do make try to make sure our female members also feel comfy and respected in guild and raid chat at the very least. Don't get me wrong, we love our boys/guys too! Most just also want to see their friends and romantic/life partners treated with a bit of respect as well.
Speaking for me personally, I actually used to raid lead my very first Ulduar raid via vent, but it was quite exhausting. A few wipes in, some people making stupid mistakes (dying in the fire...again...really?), I hated the sound in people's voices; that giving up noise brought me down. I hated fighting with other people for control of the group, how easy it was for everyone to offer their own strategies (when all we needed to do was follow our first strat without messing up).
Ley and I also live in a rural area, and our internet is a bit weak. We tend to break up over vent sporadically, so that's part of why *we* don't use vent much (although she can be a more active contributor while at her mum's, where she has a yummy ISP). But since we've tried running raids without vent (we were really unsure at first), we find the benefits do outweigh the negatives; after all, everyone might have stopped raiding with us if they could hear everything I yelled at my computer mid-fight. :P
Many of the female members in-guild are SOs of male guildies. Some are with each other.
A fair number of them are even mature women (biologically anyway) with children! It's exciting to think you can fake that, but I haven't heard that it was currently possible. ; ; But here's to hoping though! Childbirth is a really amazing experience that more men should get to experience!
To the anonymous poster, him/herself (trying to not assume here)? A troll post is a troll post, but unfortunately it does me more good than you! I don't mind typing, and I love writing prompts. So while you might see it as fun to pick at people, I just see it as an excuse to get on my soap box and pair of bumps to our recruitment thread. Thanks! ^^
As a side note, I think vent is really important for PvPing. We kind of got demolished in rated BGs last week, and vent would have helped a whole lot. But for now, with PvE content, we prefer to train everyone to know the fights, and execute them properly, than to try and lead people through each fight.
That whole teach a man to fish thing, except we're willing to work with women too. ^^