PvPing can require a good amount of determination. It's so easy to be discouraged after a bad BG/Arena/Open World PvP/Duel. You may have been out-skilled, out-geared, or just had a stroke of bad luck. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes, improve where you can, and keep on trying. Eventually you'll get it.
Nothing drives me crazier then pessimism. Or people that say "we lost" in a WSG match at the 18 minute mark when the score is tied. We haven't lost yet! Keep trying!
Another thing that bugs me personally is the extreme mentalities that some PvPers can bring to the BG or what have you.
A. "It's just a game, calm down." This is absolutely a silly thing to say. I understand it's origin and I agree with it to a certain degree. Yes, it is just a game, if it makes you scream and curse at your monitor, insulting everyone around you/playing with, or just rage quit, then you're not enjoying it. But what bothers me about this statement is it's usually used by people who aren't that good (Not that there's anything wrong with that, we're all always learning) as an excuse to play even poorly. It's an excuse to be lazy. Yeah it is just a game, and you should be enjoying it. I'm not trying to sound like a jerk here, but some people say this when they don't wish to work as a team, or they don't even bother to learn how the specific BG properly works.
B. "YOU GUYS SUCK!!!!!!!!!" This is the opposite of the above extreme. This is someone that has taken the game way, way too seriously. I can understand getting mad. Maybe it's Ab and no one defended a flag, that happens a lot. But if it's happened time and again, and the person getting made is too busy trying to camp the opposite team's GY, then they need to start being a team player and learn some humility. Or at least, take a step back from the game for 10 minutes. Or maybe it's someone that is Defending a position, and they think they're the boss, and if you don't do what they say, they'll start flipping out. I mean hell, just because your text is yellow doesn't mean you're really the "leader" and boss of the rest of your team. So don't get mad if people don't want to follow your commands.
As the saying goes, you attract more flies with honey than vinegar. You don't have to be a "carebear" to be a good player. (If the term scares you that much, personally it doesn't bother me, I know I'm a mix of carebear, cheer-leader, and team-player. Course if stupid is called out, I'm not going to jump to their defense, they made a mistake, they'll learn. But if someone calls us all a slue of curse words because we didn't follow their flawless plan, then I'm going to say something.)
It's important to find a medium. To enjoy the game, at least for most I'd imagine, it requires a certain level of seriousness. Somewhere in the middle.
I think this goes with the aforementioned humility. Take everything people say with a grain of salt, or outright ignore it if they get downright hateful. If they won't leave you alone, you can easily ignore them with a right click to their name, and a click of Ignore.
Wow, crit-brick, sorry for the length.
Edited by Suo on 12/26/2011 4:16 PM PST