My crazy idea is that, instead of endless QQ about how Ret sucks, you simply learn your niche with the tools you're given. Don't reroll to the FOTM. I know it makes little difference now, but I've been playing ret since the good ole days of refreshing dispellable seals and let me tell you, it's come a long way. You WILL get better. You just have to understand your niche and play with your whole toolset. If you do that, I guarantee that you can be more competitive (read: you won't be able to charge into fights headlong like an idiot and come out victorious, but you can put up a fight).
In the end, this will earn you far more respect from the overall community, even those highly ranked pvp gods. They understand that your spec isn't a top-rung pvp spec. So, if you're playing ret to dominate RBG's, give it up - that's not our toolset. Stick to your guns and stop giving up and crying whenever a patch comes out. It's all an arbitrarily retarded rollercoaster anyway - a few patches from now, rets will be strong again and something else will be weak.
I know this is sort of a pointless rant, but I'm tired of it. I never post, but I wanted to throw my two cents in. Thanks.