Topic Personal Advice
I'd like to ask you to put aside your hate towards me ingame and accusations against rating playstyle etc and of course my behavior in your vent rooms.
I'm posting this as a kid with a problem. It's quite sad I have to ask my realm, but nobody wants to hear it, because nobody has time.
Here's the deal. I play this game 3 hours a day TOPS if I'm lucky...And I don't log on more than 4 days a week. That's nothing really, barely above ' casual '.
I've always had issues with my mother but this is over the top. She has the idea that she's the next Buddha or something, and she's trying to be a Life Coach. Dunno how, lmao but yeah she's trying. So she's been listening to all this famous Harvard psychologist blablablabla videogame studies etc, and now she's pulled it out of her a$$ that I'm a gaming addict.
Now when we think addict we think piss-in-bottle-24-hour-no-food-no-sleep gaming sessions errryyday. Apparently anything ranging 3 hours is addiction. So guys I'm an addict? She slings the word at me every opportunity and it
makes me feel like sh¡t. I have fun here, I win games lose games kill people get killed and I learn. I've met interesting people here. I've met neighbors. But never have I seen myself as an addict?
I say, 'Mom I'm not an addict that's not
me if you want addict I can get violent and play all day and skip school you are using this word way too lightly'...which is met with OMG DEFYING MOTHER ONYXIA COMPUTER CABLE NOW...
For the record so I don't seem like an antisocial idiot loser:
Out with friends every single night
Listen to wtf my mom says
Parents praise Jesus when their kids get C's and get mediocre conduct reports..I'm acing all that she isn't
idk what to do. I come to my realm. The trolls will troll and troll but I'm really just looking for some constructive advice.
I'm fed up, we have no mother/son relationship whatsoever and I'm really about to snap on her and pull the 'let me go live with dad ihy' card... but that's hurtful?
just help me bh.
ps:disregard the helm transmog, haven't touched my warlock since I equipped it. no mog no gems nada
You're parents are dumb. When you're an adult move out asap, or get a job now and start saving to move out when you're legally aloud to.
until then, buck up. deal with your crazy parents, and try not to kill them.
I know you're a known troll, so I don't know how serious I can take this post. But, I'll answer it wholeheartedly anyways.
Sometimes, those close to you can really get under your skin, we all have experienced that. The thing is, those people that are close to you can be gone in the blink of an eye. If you do something regrettable, you might never get the chance to apologize. You'll live with that regret the rest of your life, knowing you'll never have that proper closure.
So my advice is, don't do something you'll regret later on down the road, just sit down talk to her and explain it. She should understand.
Yeah go get emancipated at 16 so you can enjoy the life of living under a bridge. Dude get over it if your parents have such a major problem with you playing WoW then quit for a while and do something else. They will see that baseball, or soccer, or marching band will take up more time and have more effect on your grades than a game full of pixels and !@#$%^-s has. BTW I have a 13 year old daughter so I am not just talking trash. I cancelled her free realms account two years ago because she was not doing her band practices. She did not get it back until she proved that she could do both at once. Your mom may have issues but guess what, she is your mom and there is nothing you can do about it. The only kids that succeed in the whole emancipation deal are hollywood stars that end up in rehab.
Edited by Elegance on 3/31/13 6:08 PM (PDT)
Your parents love you.
I went through the same exact deal, but not with my mother. It was with this guy she dated. He was the BIGGEST !@# on the face of the planet. You know. Worked in the state prison system for 35 years, drunk, pr0nz addict, military style discipline.
Anyway, I was in the same spot. Straights A's, out with friends, playing Lacrosse, in band. He'd always disapprove of the game and bring it to my mother. My mother would hate being whined to and fought with so much, she'd have to come to me and talk to me about it. And this wasn't just WoW. This was everything from the shorts i'd wear in the summertime, to how I washed dishes in a circular motion. He had a problem with everything I did.
What I wound up doing, is sticking up for myself. He was pressuring my mother so much to make my brother and I live up to HIS standards, then preaching undying love for the three of us whenever my mom would fight back. So, I took matters into my own hands and talking back to him, telling him that my life did not revolve around his impossible standards. I love myself, I loved my hobbies, my friends. I was not changing just because a man who did not live in the same era and was not used to the gaming community or the things I was interested in.
Talk to your mother. And whatever you do, do NOT move out at 16. If you do so, you won't have a base for federal student aid when applying to college, nor when you register your first car. And that puts you in a very bad spot financially.
If you ever need to talk, i'm here. Stand up to her gently, tell her she's wrong in her ways, and try to make compromise.
Edit: And yes, my mother proudly left him after a year of that bs. He's still a pain to our family to this day.
Bane? Live under a bridge? I'd happily just go live with my dad which some how she isnt legally allowing me...
I play sports, play wow, get good grades...I'm the poster child of perfectness..wait I play Wow..
I play for a travel team and that means moving around the state etc, I just skip wow for weeks wow is my last priority..But what else am I gonna do from like 3-6? lay on the bed and sit on facebook?
You're going too hard Bane. Not my fault your daughter couldn't prioritize.
@ Elegance- Truly sorry to hear that but look how you turned our, I can't describe you when you come to mind other than 'good person'.
@ X- Also sorry to hear that. But I am confusing you people. My mother does not do this because she cares, she want's to take an eternal dump on anything I derive pleasure from..The last time she asked me how school was going was when I was filling out papers for middle school in the 5th grade.
And thanks for the emanci notes. I had an adult friend of mine call her lawyer with me he didn't mention any of this, thank you.
Omg this qt is making me teary right now.
This is unreal!
She's 41 and you're 14. In her time (teens), she did not have what we have now. She did not have video games, the internet or anything resembling what our generation currently has. While you can draw parallels to some things in her time, video games are a notable exception. When someone can't make a connection for something to something that they have experienced (especially the older generations), it's alien and foreign to them, and they seek to fill in that gap with what they believe to be credible and trustworthy information.
She thinks that the Harvard's psychologist's studies are accurate for, probably, most of the gamer demographic, and it'll help you understand her a bit more and be better able to explain to her (as Elegance suggested) why you're not an addict and why she is wrong and should not be slandering you for your hobbies/beliefs and that she should not be a...I hate to say it because of how "common" it is...sheep.
1) She cannot draw any definitive parallel to anything in her time that resembles video games.
2) The psychologist works at Harvard. Harvard is considered the cream of the crop for intellectuals. It lends credibility to anyone who manages to go there, or so many think.
3) The psychologist is a professional.
4) He wears a white coat...presumably.
5) She doesn't know the internet as we do, so she cannot properly research the information and studies pertaining to video games and their "effects" on gamers.
She has no experience with games, listens to a presumably credible person who wears a white coat and has a profession in studying the way people think and act in myriad of situations and circumstances, and is internet illiterate.
Before I continue, I need to know if my presumptions about your mom "ring a bell" so to speak, or if she exhibits any sort of behavior that I have just outlined.