I mentioned helping by explaining in the best way I could. It's being very active and being able to set up times to do this or that with them that I get nervous with.
You try talking and socializing, even on the internet, when your mind goes blank, head starts spinning and you feel like puking all your insides out because your stomach is so shaky.
I can't help I have social anxiety to the point I can't even speak to people that well enough to get even a job.
I figured simply to do this if someone was already planning on buying the game/upgrading an alt, and moving to Sen'jin, not for them to go out and do this OMGJUSTBECAUSE I asked, and wouldn't mind helping me out. I don't see how it's using someone, when I'm not forcing them to do this.
Forget I even asked. *facepalm*
I do this for America Tov.
This isn't some charity case where all Lanneru wants is someone to give him something and then they'd be ditched. If you would have read correctly.. he said he'd help how he could but it would be limited and perhaps even a bit awkward.
No.. we're not very social people. We'll help. We're nice enough. You don't have to shoot someone down for trying.
Instead of saying they're a terrible person.. and that my friend is BAD for wanting to do this.. you could have been a little more understanding.
Everyone thinks social anxiety is a joke. That someone is just being lazy or doesn't want to think for themselves. No. Not the case at all. Seriously not the case. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety by multiple doctors. It's a very real thing. Most of the time medicine and counseling doesn't even help. It's something the person can't HELP.
It's not some excuse to get out of doing things.
All Lanneru simply wanted people to understand.. is that help would be there as much as he could possibly explain in the beginning. Even if the person whispered to him.. asking something.. he'd try to help. Gold or bags or something like that… I'm sure it's lovely to get the help on. We didn't have that though. No one helped us. (not complaining. I enjoy earning things on my own.. as does Lanneru - but I don't see a way we can earn something like this on our own. It's to rely on other people. Not everyone has money they can just throw all around. ) And as a note.. no one helped.. because we were terrified to ask.. thinking people would be elitist and rude. We've had it happen in places before. Being shot down like that only makes us recluse more and it's hard.
We're not the most familiar with things ourselves. Still figure it out as we go. I didn't see a problem with asking to try and at least get a neat mount.. but with not too much expectation in getting guided by the hand every step of the way. Here and there, yes. But not every step.
As for your "witty" little remarks at the bottom.. we're not that young. We also don't drink. Don't make such assumptions about someone you know nothing about. It's not funny at all.
Try to remember this.. "If you have nothing nice to say.. don't say anything at all."
He did not want to provide any of these things in his original post. Anyway I'm done with this.
I didn't know this about the battle chest, but I figured about at least some simple bags which I would have gladly provided along with some gold. Not as much as the unspoken "etiquette" that apparently goes around, but at least some.
That's another thing: I had no way of knowing this.
I admit that my first original post needed some work, and I should have explained a bit more that I was willing to help, even if only through advice and tips, because (and it's not an excuse to cover my own !@#) it WOULD be there.
But I still don't think my stuff garnered someone being so rude and sending me into panic attacks yesterday. I'm a very sensitive person and I don't take things like that so well.
There are both good ways and terrible ways to tell someone that what they said is a bit rude or to simply inform me of the "proper" way to do these things -as I said, I didn't know this about the general amount of gold or the battle chest.
You could have cut a lot of this out by simply saying the facts you said about RaF -the gestures and things accepted as the norm, I would have understood and then simply ditched the idea.
Regardless, I'm not going to try anymore.
I don't appreciate the assumption that you made that says I do not want to work for things, as I've planned to work my $%^ off to get to where I need to be, and helping Anileesa do the same, and if someday this disorder lightens up for me and I'm able to do things on a more social level with people, then begin helping others do the same.
(and not to mention actually be able to run instances and raids with groups.)
I'm done with this as well.
But for what I did read..... /mindblown...I can't tell if he is trolling himself or not..
06/30/2013 03:47 PMPosted by LanneruI can't help I have social anxiety to the point I can't even speak to people that well enough to get even a job.
uhhh...what..Now i feel bad
tl;drYou e-bullys.... What am I going to do with you?!
But for what I did read..... /mindblown...I can't tell if he is trolling himself or not..I can't help I have social anxiety to the point I can't even speak to people that well enough to get even a job.
uhhh...what..Now i feel bad
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